Hey ya’ll its Queen J. back with another blog update on where life has taken me. In 2023, I began existing in flow, after coming off a very special birthday celebration in October, (Libra gang,) and finding love for myself in more unique ways; I found myself paying more attention to my inner childs needs. I allowed myself to reconnect with those after taking time a part to grow. I accomplished everything on my goal list this past year; starting with exploring more and connecting with new people in different states and countries.
To start, I traveled to see the Luv is 4ever tour, visiting Michigan for the first time. Then, traveled to see Chicago, making sure to visit every place on my travel list. honestly, I traveled so much in the past year that it became the highlight of 2023. top it off with launching W.I.P. on August 19th with the help of my chosen family. I aslo managed to elevate my life to give back to the community in my new job. I pushed past mental barriers to grow my podcast series. * These are just a few of the accomplishments I managed to achieve in 2023.
Sometimes it feels like I haven’t grown or made changes in my life, but the reality is that simply isn’t true. Its actually a hinderance on what I have already accomplished. By me doubting myself because I feel I haven’t accomplished all that I’ve dreamed of in a specified amount of time, I have been inadvertenly setting limits on my goals.
I’ve recently discovered that the key to assured success is shifting my perspective around said goals. My ability to channel and speak hard truths isn’t something that comes effortlessly and the glass ceilinngs I aim to break with my voice aren’t easily obtainable and may just take some time.
Naturally, most goals take time, and consistency to achieve. Every day can bring an obstacle, but my recent way of thinking has led me to understand that healing is about how I choose to navigate around them. Learning to exist in flow has become the most freeing thing I have ever experienced.
Existing in Flow
I used to never question whether or not I would sit in a negative space of thinking; begin to overthink myself into oblivion. There was never an “or ” to grab hold of. Thus, the obstacle (whatever that looked like) would grow and would overwhelm me, I would not have allowed myself to prevent the impending spiral with a positive thought or action that is counteractive to the negative response. It is here, where I began to truly exist in flow. The “or” I allowed myself to have was able to prevent oncoming mental breakdowns and truly gave me the choice to determine whether I truly cared or only cared because I felt I “had to“. In short, there is power in choice. this has given me the push to decimate any obligatory pressure. It allowed and continues to allow me the ability to take control over my reactions vs responses.
Understand, I did not get here easily, in fact it took me many losses to realize the beauty and freedom in choice. I used to struggle with coming to the “right choices“, but I began to see that when choosing for myself I musn’t look at how it will impact those who have harmed me. For when this occurs we are not taking our entire expeirence into consideration.
Consequently, I learned that when living in alignment; feeling complete in myself and my truths, no matter how dark and ugly they may be allows me to live a true life of authenticity.
I was able to let go of past hurt and reconcile with those that meant the most to me during a transformative period in my life. Without mastering the art of living in flow, I certainly would not have been able to cultivate the bonds I now have. One could argue that existing in flow is the same as
not sweating the small stuff or not taking others shit personally. Either way, when choosing to exist in this state you are able to see how life acts.
There will always be hurdles thrown our way whether they are big or small, but the power lies in how we choose to deal with the obstacles thrown our way. If we give ourselves the time to pause and visualize the or: then we can choose the outcome we play a role in.
This is one of the most meaningful steps to take towards catering to your inner childs needs and becoming unbothered by others projections of self. (more on this later)
Healing Our Inner Child
Our inner child refers to the part of our psyche that holds onto the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors from our childhood. Healing our inner child involves acknowledging and addressing these past experiences to promote emotional and psychological well-being in adulthood.
When considering how to tend to those needs, it often takes a moment of deep intentionality and awareness alongside some deep reflection on what emotion or unmet need is being triggered. For me, I have found a great level of peace that lies in having the ability to identify what emotion is rising up within circumstance.
This can look like me taking the time to meditate over what I’m feeling and why (figuring out where its stemming from) or this can be me mapping out where the emotion is asking to be moved from.
When we think of emoting we often tend to forget that emoting means to move feeling through the body. Since developing this shift in perspective about the connection between self-soothing and the body, I have been able to feel happy when I’m crying because I view it as a total body release. Once we are able to tend to our needs and pour back into ourselves, we may discoover just how much peace and power already exists within us.
It is now time to . . .
Pause. Breathe, Relax.
Allow these words to give your soul a hug, move you, inspire you as you learn to become grounded within yourself.
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I sit in spaces designed for peace and ease
I now see how hurdles can either make or break me
Some designed to destroy and deter me
Others designed to sharpen natural born gifts
Power rests within silence
Peace awaits those who seek it
Duality gives room for choice
obscurity with radiance
Balance in vitality
Will you choose to succumb to the recoil or choose the route of feedback?
The numbers 346 are so magnetic
The numbers 346 have this potent power that Im learning to control
346 means to maximize my power
so what does that mean when it goes by hour by hour
346. Sit in it.
346 understand that time is ours
Allow your third eye to open to a new vision and stay focused
lets magnify and maximize our power within real time
so that means to get out of the confines
Affirm with me:
I’m not going to live with anxiety, not in this lifetime
346 means I’m going to distance myself from you and your anxieties and depressions and projections that you try and place on me
I let my wings fly so I can truly be free
so 346 is all within me
346 is all within my entity
it’s in my being
it’s in my destiny
346.
I rise
346
I realize I come alive with each time I say these words
I realize
depression is no longer on my mind
affirm 346 as you begin to live in alignment with yourself and God
living in alignment each time we meditate over actions/ before giving into the reactions
know that not every situation warrants aggresssion /some require a gentle yet firm assertion
standing firm on the lines you draw, honors your true self day by day
Know its okay to let emotions exert from the body
For its only / a release a need for you to relinquish control over the past you continue to hold.
let go grant yourself grace and peace as your story unfolds. . .
-Queen J.
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